Many people enter into remarriage with rose-colored glasses, believing that the early years will be similar to the honeymoon period they experienced in their first marriage. With so many additional factors at play in a second marriage, this is almost never the case. Here are three commonly believed myths about remarriage, and a more realistic view of what to expect.
 
This marriage will be different from the first
            Unless you have fully looked at and addressed the issues that came up in your first marriage, history is likely to repeat itself. While the divorce rate for first marriages is 50%, the number increases to 67% for second marriages and 73% for third marriages. This is where couple’s therapy can be a huge asset! As a couple, you have the opportunity to do some preventative work in therapy to help lessen the possibility of a split.
 
Your children and stepchildren will support the marriage
            Divorce and remarriage are extremely difficult times in a child’s life, leaving them feeling confused, lost and uncertain about their future. They are not choosing your new partner- you are. Children feel like they don’t have much of a voice in these instances. So it is important for you as an adult to be patient and prepared to help the kids’ work through whatever personal issues the remarriage brings up for them.
 
After the wedding, you will instantly become a family.
            In your first marriage this may have been a true statement. You got married, bought a house, had children, and each transition was smooth. But in a remarriage the formula is a bit different. The children already have a mother and father and a house that they call home, and this life they had has been disrupted. So it will be crucial to the development of your new family to take your children and stepchildren’s wants and needs into consideration in the hope of speeding the transition process for them and for your new family. 

Reiki is a Japanese spiritual healing technique that can help us return to harmony & balance. Reiki is usually referred to as Energy Medicine but Reiki goes a lot deeper than just energy. It is actually Primordial Consciousness (Divine Wisdom) and we channel that through from Practitioner to recipient.

Reiki does work very closely with our auric field to promote the body’s relaxation response & strengthen our natural ability to heal by encouraging balance. But my favorite part as a Practitioner is connecting physically with my recipients and creating a level of sacred intimacy in healing touch…. because at the end of the day, we are all not held enough.

During a session, the reiki practitioner will place their hands lightly on different areas of the recipient’s body, sometimes starting from the head and working their way down to the feet. Sometimes the hands might hover and/or sometimes the hands touch the recipients body. I usually like to ask my clients what they prefer before a session so I am not overstepping a boundary (this is important!)

Reiki sessions can also include other modalities like breath work, crystal therapy, somatic movements & sacred dance, card pulling, smudging, sound therapy, sacred shares, where you can express anything that is coming up for you in a safe space and really any other modality that intuitively fits the session.

~ Deep Relaxation
~ Relief of Stress & Anxiety
~ Eases Muscle Tension
~ Spiritual Awakening
~ Increased Intuition
~ Releases Toxins
~ Boosts Immune System
~ Enhances Creativity

I would love to know! Have you ever seen experienced reiki? What has been your experience?

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This post was written by our reiki practitioner, Amanda Burke

​Feeling bummed out on Valentine's Day is par for the course on a holiday that is centered around comparison. If you are single, or in a relationship that doesn't make you feel fulfilled, it's totally normal to have the blues on February 14th! You may find yourself comparing your situation to those around you (or to the picture perfect couples on social media), even letting the little voice in your head beat you up a bit for not having found someone to spend the holiday with.  
If the ultimate day of love and commercialism doesn't have you feeling so warm and fuzzy, here are some tips to cope:
1) Stay away from social media the week of Valentine's Day. When we see others who have something that we feel we don't our brains immediately start to go into overdrive, releasing chemicals that actually make us feel down and depressed. By skipping social media, your brain won't be exposed to the triggers that would normally set it off, which will keep you feeling calm and neutral (and I daresay, even positive?).
2) Set clear boundaries with the happy couples in your life. If you don't want to hear about your sisters perfect date plans with her new beau, or your roommates amazing new partner who has the most perfect Valentine's Day planned, set a boundary! Tell them all that you would prefer not to hear about anything Valentine's Day related this year, and that you trust them to respect your boundaries. Doing this will alleviate you from having to hear about anything that might send you into a spiral. 
3) Re-brand the holiday as the ultimate day to love YOURSELF. Buy the flowers and the chocolate, book a facial, find the perfect movie, and treat yourself to a day so perfect that only you could be the one to pull it off. Have single friends? Invite them to indulge in the perfect self-love day with you! Flipping the holiday on its head will make you feel loved and cared for in the way that you crave, and remind you that you never need another person to do those things for you when you are perfectly capable of loving on yourself.

Feeling a little down in the dumps this winter? Here are five things you can do today to start making yourself feel better:

1. Bundle up and get outside
   1. Even just a brisk 10 minute walk in the sun can give you a burst of Vitamin D, increase melatonin production and balance serotonin activity. Plus, elevating your heartrate with a walk/hike releases endorphins to help lift your mood
2. Make a cup of herbal tea
   1. Teas like St. Johns Wort, green tea, lemon balm, elderflower, etc. naturally boost your bodies nutrients with vitamins, minerals and antioxidants to nourish your body, mind and soul and elevate your mood
3. Watch a movie with a loved one that makes you laugh out loud
   1. Laughter stimulates processes in your brain that counteract depressive symptoms
4. Watch your screen time
   1. More time indoors usually means more screen time, and too much can diminish mood and build fatigue. Instead of reaching for your phone try picking up a book or listen to a podcast
5. Try a light box
   1. It will help to relate your body's circadian rhythm and natural release of hormones

​For more help with beating the Winter Blues, visit our services page to learn about the benefits of each of our offerings!

-Written by Samantha Cameron
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Interested in starting a meditation practice, but worried about the process? Here is everything you need to know to put those fears to rest!
Meditation can be defined as a period of quiet reflection and mental engagement in an effort to achieve heightened levels of spiritual connection. While that definition may play into any preconceived notions that you have about how meditation is performed, here are some things to consider.

• Not all meditation is performed with your eyes closed.
  • Connecting in doesn’t require your eyes to be shut to reach heightened levels of awareness.
• You don’t need to be sitting down to meditate
  • While one of the most popular ways to meditate is from a seated position, you can just as easily do meditations while on the go. These are referred to as walking meditations, and are becoming increasingly more popular
• Silence is not required for meditation
  • Feel free to meditate while listening to soft music, allowing yourself to fully engage with the frequency of the sounds that you are tuning into. Let them guide you inwards so that you can quiet the noise of the world around you, and focus in on the present.
• Meditation is not about clearing your mind
  • We’ve all heard the notion that meditation is about completely clearing your mind of thought, allowing any passing ideas to float away rather than letting them linger. But what if those thoughts are showing up for a reason? Instead of feeling overwhelmed by their presence, ask them in a non-judgmental manner what they are there to show you.
• Meditation can be short and sweet
  • While some meditation sessions can be quite lengthy, they don’t have to be! Stay in the present moment for as long as you feel called to, and gently bring yourself out of it whenever you choose. You are in control of the process.